17: Belonging with Authenticity and Self Acceptance



Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. – Brené Brown

This week we take a closer look at what it means to truly belong.  To have a sense of belonging.  This is more than just sitting in a room surrounded by people. Belonging is not merely “fitting in.” Belonging is a feeling that you are accepted and a welcome and included part of the larger group as you are right now without exception. In order to have true belonging we must be our authentic selves.  Belonging is fundamental to our connection and sense of self worth. 

To find true belonging we must work on our sense of acceptance.  We must continue to do the hard work of listening to our inner voice and connecting to our authentic selves.  

Belonging does not mean changing yourselves to fit in the group but it does mean that you be open and be accepting of others. 

Belonging is important on a personal level but it also has larger implications in communities, workplaces and schools. To truly welcome others we need to be able to provide a place that they can be themselves without having to change.   By showing up as our authentic self we make it safe and open for others to show up as their authentic selves.  

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Take a mental inventory of where/when you feel most connected; when do you feel least connected?
  2. Journal prompt: set a timer for 10 minutes and describe in detail your ideal group interaction. How many people are there? What are you doing? How does it feel? Where are you?
  3. Create a calendar reminder for sometime in the next week to start building your ideal interaction/group.

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16: SETTING BOUNDARIES TO FREE YOURSELF



This week we tackle setting boundaries.  Setting boundaries is the key to being able to be your most authentic self and live a truly limitless life.  Boundaries aren’t just a sign of a healthy relationship; they’re a sign of self-respect. So give yourself the permission to set boundaries and work to preserve them.

It’s important for all of us to have personal boundaries. They dictate how we approach relationships with friends and acquaintances. Our boundaries help us live in-tune with our desires, needs, and feelings. They help us be our authentic selves. It’s no one’s responsibility to make you happy, just like you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. 

We use boundaries to discard the world’s expectations and live our own free life. Boundaries help us navigate relationships with friends, families, and in your work.

Boundaries are not easy to set for anyone and we know that.  We live that.  We do a deep dive into the how-tos of setting boundaries.  What you need to practice and what support you need to establish.  

Join us, free yourself by setting boundaries!

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Practice saying “No, thanks.” 
  2. Journal about your feelings when saying no. How did it feel?  What feelings came up?
  3. Use your accountability partner to practice setting boundaries within your relationship.

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15: WOMEN AND ANGER: AUTHENTICITY MEANS ALL THE FEELINGS



Women are taught from early on that anger is ugly and inappropriate.  Certainly not ladylike.  On this week’s episode we take a close look at what it means to be angry as a woman, as a parent, as a member of our society.  

We discuss what we were told about anger as children and how that influenced how we showed ourselves to the world.  Suppressing anger can be dangerous, both to an individual and society and yet we continue to reward women for hiding their anger. 

Why is anger so important? Why is a necessary feeling disregarded for women?  Why is anger so threatening?  Join us as we dig deep to answer these questions. 

As Soraya Chemaly says, “A society that does not respect women’s anger is one that does not respect women, not as human beings, thinkers, knowers, active participants, or citizens.” We are building a limitless society and to do so we must allow anger its place.   

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Take some quiet time for yourself with your journal and answer these writing prompts:
    1. When were you angry last?
    2. What did you do about it?
    3. How did that make you feel?
  2. Catch up with your accountability partner and talk about the things that make you angry and how you express that anger
    1. Revisit your journal and see how it matches up to your conversation

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14: FEELING ALL THE FEELINGS



Today we are feeling all the things! On this episode of We Go Boldly Podcast we are talking about living authentically by allowing yourself to feel your feelings. Tune in and join us as we walk through what it means to feel all of your feelings, and allow yourself the time and space to experience the fullness of your emotional life.

We dive into how to start noticing and being aware of what you are feeling. Naming and identifying your feelings accurately allows you to begin connecting with your highest purpose. We remind our listeners that feelings are a process, they are not always logical, and that you can have conflicting feelings. It is in reality normal to feel conflicting feelings!

Beyond the initial process of identifying and accepting that you are in fact feeling something, we look deeply at what it means to have emotional integrity, and to be vulnerable. We talk through the idea that in order to be authentic and live a limitless life, we need to allow ourselves the opportunity to feel and process what is happening in your life. 

When we tune into our true feelings we also make room for our intuition to step forward and guide our decisions. We open our lives to the influence and power of the world around us, without allowing it to take over. As we start to allow in feelings that we may have been denying or ignoring for a long time it can be challenging to find a balance. We remind our listeners that feeling our feelings is not the same as being consumed by our feelings. 

Throughout, we talk about how to process all these feelings you are now letting in to your head and heart. We run through suggestions from finding a professional therapist to help you with big concerns that crop up to starting your own journaling, art, or meditation practice to work through your feelings. At the end of the day, your feelings affect you both physically and mentally. It is essential to a limitless life that you learn to identify, process, and move through the whole breadth of feelings. 

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Revisit clearing the clutter from your mind
  2. Take time out during the day and start noticing your feelings, keep a journal handy and jot down what you notice or keep a voice memo for yourself
  3. If it feels safe to do so without the advice of a professional, start to focus on one of the emotions or feelings that you noticed from your day that maybe you pushed to the side.
  4. Give yourself permission to look at that feeling without judging it or letting it take over

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13: THE SCIENCE OF GRATITUDE AND WHY PRACTICING IT MATTERS



Today we talk about gratitude.  We hear a lot about gratitude in the world, whether it is a gratitude journal or the concept of practicing gratitude.  We take a deep dive to look at what gratitude truly is and why it is good for us.

Gratitude is not the same as toxic positivity or finding a silver lining.  Gratitude involves noticing the goodness in the world, but it doesn’t mean being blind to the tough stuff or the mess that can get all of us. 

Gratitude builds emotional resilience and flexibility by helping you see the positive things in life.  It can help you stay grounded and accept whatever your present situation is.  Gratitude can benefit your relationships and your career.

Beyond that gratitude leads to significant benefits in all parts of your life including benefits to your physical health.  The practice of gratitude can affect your brain function, reduce your stress hormones and help manage the autonomic nervous system function, significantly reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety.  

How do you practice gratitude?  We cover that too.  We talk about consistency, gratitude journals, and ways to say thank you to your friends, family and the universe. 

We share how we practice gratitude and our lives and what a difference it has made.  Join us today!

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12. FINDING GUIDANCE and CONNECTION in the SILENCE and SPACE of MEDITATION



In today’s episode we ask you, where do you find your connection?  We ask you this because in order to hear your inner voice and connect to your authentic self you are often required to find the silence and shut out the noise.  Silence is what allows you to hear yourself more clearly and to hear the world around you.  As you search for silence you may find that your mind is more cluttered than you realized.  Or you may have found that the voices that are the loudest in your mind are not actually your own.  Those voices could be society as a whole or a certain person in your history or current life.  It is the silence that can give you the peace to let you focus on your own thoughts. 

Meditation comes in many forms and allows you to connect to the silence.  It allows you to turn inward in a deep way and connect both with yourself and your sense of spirituality. Meditation is considered a type of mind-body complementary medicine. Meditation can produce a deep state of relaxation and a tranquil mind.

You can meditate with a purpose – to calm yourself, soothe anxiety, release stress, alleviate pain etc.  Meditation can simply be used to help you become more mindful of what is going on inside your own body and mind – to notice.  The process of mediation is filled with trial and errors and false starts. 

Grounding is another way to find silence in your life and gives you an opportunity to deepen your connection to the earth and the natural world.  When we ground ourselves, we’re calming or slowing down our emotions and getting more in touch with our internal and external worlds. Grounding our energy can be helpful when we feel either unbalanced or nervous. Being grounded also means that we’re more mindful with respect to our environment.

Join us as we talk about how we have failed and succeeded at integrating both meditation and grounding into our lives.


11: BUILDING YOUR MINDFUL MORNING



It is time to kick off Season Two and we are coming in strong with a recap of all the fabulous tips, tools, and deep dives from Season One! Everything we discussed, laughed about, and revealed to you in the first season carries over to the work we are undertaking here in Season Two of We Go Boldly Podcast. Get ready to dive right back into the deep end today as we recap Season One and layout how to  build a morning routine that works for you and your life. 

In Season One of the We Go Boldly Podcast we invited you to begin your inner exploration and journey to clearing the outside noise. We talked about finding your inner goddess, setting attainable goals, motivation versus discipline, breaking through the shoulds and oughts, defeating the darkness, the value of adaptability, and the power of relationships. All of these skills and tools allow you to seek out the limitless life that you deserve.

As we move forward into this next season we are bringing some of the tools we started experimenting with in our first season and we are building on them as we go. You will need your accountability partner more than ever! We are also going even further into our gratitude practice, journaling, meditation, and mindful breathing practices. 

All of those tools are going to wrap into building a meaningful and beautiful morning routine. The way you start your morning will impact your whole day. Start small and build. Even if you start by taking five minutes to breathe before you get out of bed in the morning that is a great beginning. You are worth the time and energy to build this routine into your life. 

Listen in this week and kick off Season Two with us!

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Start planning your morning routine.  What would you like to include in the routine?
  2. Figure out what you need to do in order to make that happen.  Do you need to get up earlier?  Make a plan the night before?  Buy a journal?
  3. Find an accountability partner, join  our Facebook group, follow us Instagram and Facebook.

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10: MAKING CONNECTIONS THROUGH RELATIONSHIP



In today’s episode of We Go Boldly we are talking about relationships, friendship, and finding people to lift us up.  Join us as we wrap up Season One and discuss what happens when you start listening to your inner voice and begin to make changes in your life.  What happens to relationships when you become the more authentic version of yourself.  

We look at what makes healthy and happy relationships. Making sure you are getting and giving in equal parts so you both benefit and grow from the friendship.  As you learn more you will make decisions about how you are serving others and how your friends are serving you.  We also talk about the importance of setting boundaries in our relationships. Boundaries are as much for yourself as they are for others.  

While making friends as an adult can be difficult, the best part about making new friends is an ability to create healthier friendship patterns. New friendships give you a fresh start, the opportunity to learn from past friend relationships and forge new ones that have even stronger ties. You can find the friends who will most compliment you and help you achieve a more fulfilling life, people who you can be there for, too.

We share our personal struggles and challenges with finding friends who are supporting. Learning the lesson that if someone looks down upon your goals that is more a reflection on them than you. Friends can be there for your joy and heartache as well as your successes.  

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

This week we want you to make a friend’s inventory, either in your head or grab your notebook.  Figure out the friends that you would like to reconnect with and the friends whom you need to disconnect.  When you have your list of friends to reconnect with, send a text or a note.  Share your gratitude.

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9: ADAPTABILITY IN A WORLD OF CONFORMITY



In today’s episode of We Go Boldly we are talking about adaptability. Dive in with us as we discuss the differences and intersections between being adaptable, flexible, and resilient. When you develop your ability to adapt to changing circumstances, life becomes easier and more navigable. 

Changing your mindset from one of being set in your ways to one where you are curious and seek out new experiences and information can open your world. We also discuss how adaptable people are able to see the entire playing field rather than focusing solely on the current moment and situation. This enables a growth mindset to flourish.

We share our personal trials and tribulations in adjusting and adapting both in “normal” times and during the distinct challenges of COVID-19. Hear us talk about building a business and momming during a global pandemic. 

Being adaptable is a personality trait but it is also a skill. Listen in to hear all about ways to flex and improve your adaptability muscle, whether it’s by simply taking a new route to the coffee shop or by trying a new activity every month. There are a million ways to become more adaptable and give yourself the freedom to flow with the Universe. 

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

This week we want you to get together with your bold partner and practice becoming more adaptable by one of the methods we talked about today.

Jump over to our IG or FB group and let us know what steps you are taking to become more adaptable – share pictures of you being adaptable and tag us @goboldlytogether

Reminder of a few ways you can practice:

  1. Seek out other perspectives and ideas than you normally embrace
  2. Start taking small risks every day – try a new brand of coffee, drive a different route to work, try a new makeup routine, wear a different color, try a new kind of food. Start small and build
  3. Seek out other people to practice with and encourage them to embrace some kind of change
  4. Learn a new skill in your field or in a totally separate field

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8. THE POWER OF EXPECTATIONS AND PERSONAL RULES



Join us today as we talk about the power of personal rules and how we tend to suppress them. We’re both sharing some of the life boxes we’ve check off on our linear and nonlinear train.

Should, must, ought, and supposed to’s are statements with a common negative thinking pattern, or cognitive distortion, that can contribute to feelings of fear and worry. They also put unreasonable demands and pressure on ourselves, which can make us feel guilty or like we’ve failed.

Today we are giving you examples from our own journey of where this came into play.

We also touch on guilt and how this weighs us down. Guilt and shame can often be the result of misplaced “should” and society’s expectations, which we discuss. Stay tuned for another episode where we talk all about the mom guilt.

Discarding expectation means listening to your inner voice and silencing the rest. Truly tune in to your soul and do what it wants. Do what just feels right to you at that very moment.

This can be done by practicing mindfulness, evaluating the story you are telling yourself, letting go of fixed fantasies and so much more, which we share our own examples of today.

Dominating your own thought process can be scary. Risk taking can be scary. Learning how to get off the train can be scary, or not. It’s the ways of improving how we talk to ourselves that can be the real turning point to win!

All this, some mantras, and more on today’s show.

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

Write down the way you thought your life was supposed to be.  

Write the story of your life. Get together with your Bold partner and exchange the stories.  Help each other look at the stories objectively and then identify the bullshit parts of them.  The lies in the stories.  Rip it up and throw it out.

Adopt a mantra when you hear the should, oughts, supposed to’s creep into your life. If it helps (and it will) write it out and post it somewhere.   

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