Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. – Brené Brown
This week we take a closer look at what it means to truly belong. To have a sense of belonging. This is more than just sitting in a room surrounded by people. Belonging is not merely “fitting in.” Belonging is a feeling that you are accepted and a welcome and included part of the larger group as you are right now without exception. In order to have true belonging we must be our authentic selves. Belonging is fundamental to our connection and sense of self worth.
To find true belonging we must work on our sense of acceptance. We must continue to do the hard work of listening to our inner voice and connecting to our authentic selves.
Belonging does not mean changing yourselves to fit in the group but it does mean that you be open and be accepting of others.
Belonging is important on a personal level but it also has larger implications in communities, workplaces and schools. To truly welcome others we need to be able to provide a place that they can be themselves without having to change. By showing up as our authentic self we make it safe and open for others to show up as their authentic selves.
GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK
- Take a mental inventory of where/when you feel most connected; when do you feel least connected?
- Journal prompt: set a timer for 10 minutes and describe in detail your ideal group interaction. How many people are there? What are you doing? How does it feel? Where are you?
- Create a calendar reminder for sometime in the next week to start building your ideal interaction/group.
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