Did you know that Smith is still the most popular name? Over time a person’s job was their defining feature, literal identity. While we aren’t named after our job these days we are often too tied to them and too enmeshed in them. Many of us have come to actually define ourselves by our occupations – which often comes at our own expense.
On today’s episode Tovah and Rielly get personal when they talk about jobs and identity. They have both struggled with separating their identity from their jobs.
Why is it not okay to be completely connected with your job? It makes it harder to connect with people who aren’t a part of your working life. If you define yourself by your work, any failure can cause a crisis of identity.
Listen this week to learn ways to diversify your life and ensure your job is something you do and not something you are.
GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK
- Check in with yourself. Do you think about work a lot when you are not there? Are you likely to bring it up in the first few minutes of a conversation? Would you describe yourself and your self worth as too enmeshed with your identity? Think on it and journal on it if it helps.
- Journal a list and talk with your accountability partner how you can diversify yourself. Go do the things.
- We just launched the Defining You Course at the beginning of this month. Taking the plunge and writing your personal mission statement is a great opportunity to start that process. Look deep into your inner world to learn more about who you are, and importantly who you want to be going forward. Having a personal mission statement is a little like having a map, or at least some road signs to help you along the way. Your mission statement is meant to help you better understand yourself, keep you focused on who you are at your core, and who you want to be. When life throws you curves, as it always will, your mission statement can help you stay steady and navigate all the ups and downs. Head over to our Instagram bio to sign up for our course.
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