Join us today as we talk about the power of personal rules and how we tend to suppress them. We’re both sharing some of the life boxes we’ve check off on our linear and nonlinear train.
Should, must, ought, and supposed to’s are statements with a common negative thinking pattern, or cognitive distortion, that can contribute to feelings of fear and worry. They also put unreasonable demands and pressure on ourselves, which can make us feel guilty or like we’ve failed.
Today we are giving you examples from our own journey of where this came into play.
We also touch on guilt and how this weighs us down. Guilt and shame can often be the result of misplaced “should” and society’s expectations, which we discuss. Stay tuned for another episode where we talk all about the mom guilt.
Discarding expectation means listening to your inner voice and silencing the rest. Truly tune in to your soul and do what it wants. Do what just feels right to you at that very moment.
This can be done by practicing mindfulness, evaluating the story you are telling yourself, letting go of fixed fantasies and so much more, which we share our own examples of today.
Dominating your own thought process can be scary. Risk taking can be scary. Learning how to get off the train can be scary, or not. It’s the ways of improving how we talk to ourselves that can be the real turning point to win!
All this, some mantras, and more on today’s show.
GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK
Write down the way you thought your life was supposed to be.
Write the story of your life. Get together with your Bold partner and exchange the stories. Help each other look at the stories objectively and then identify the bullshit parts of them. The lies in the stories. Rip it up and throw it out.
Adopt a mantra when you hear the should, oughts, supposed to’s creep into your life. If it helps (and it will) write it out and post it somewhere.
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